The older I get, the more I find myself in search of pieces that will set me apart from the rest of the pack. My earlier years were a struggle of wanting to blend in, but also express myself through my style. Now, I feel I have finally found my confidence to rock whatever clothing item I fancy.
It wasn’t something that happened overnight. I wouldn’t even say it was something that happened when I started this blog. It took a while to become comfortable in what others might consider over-dressed or strange attire. I can, however, say that the evolution of this mindset started not with my attitude toward what I’m wearing, but my attitude toward what others are wearing. Instead of scoffing at an outfit/look that I don’t necessarily love, I’ve made it a habit of looking at it from a different perspective… and finding the beauty its wearer found in it. This was a key factor that brought about a change in my confidence.
Constantly picking others apart, even if they are strangers and will never know, is poison to not only everyone around you, but also yourself. It might seem harmless to complain about that girl who wears frumpy clothing or too much makeup or none at all, or too much of this and not enough of that…but every time you do this, you are immediately honing in on the negative. And before you know it, you’ll miss the positive…in not only those around you but also yourself. How many people do you know, who pick others apart, are happy and confident with themselves? Not too many. I know I sure wasn’t.
This incredible see-through coat from designer Yuna Yang is a piece I may not have had the confidence to don a couple years ago. But boy, I’m sure glad that’s changed! This coat is incredible, and oh so unique. I can’t say I’ve ever seen anything like it. The fact that it is sheer adds an element of surprise to it. I also love how the fabric has a hint of shimmer to it…and we’ve already been over my love of polka dots. Haha. Yuna Yang creates such beautiful clothing. To read more about Yuna Yang, check out my previous post featuring her work by clicking here, and be sure to check out her website by clicking here.
Would you say you’ve reached a level of self-confidence you’re happy with? And if so, how did you do it? Let me know in the comments!
Where to find it:
See-through coat: c/o* Yuna Yang (Similar here)
Dress: Closet London (No longer available. Similar here.)
Heels: Amazon (Similar)
Sunglasses: c/o* Polette
Lipstick: Stila Stay All Day Liquid Lipstick
*c/o = courtesy of, meaning the company gave me the product to be used on my blog, and I did not pay for it. All opinions are my own, and I am not being compensated for a positive review.
Love your positive attitude Lindsey. There is so little time to do things which you like, to think about what others are doing wrong.
You sure are rocking this coat. Love the combination with the dress.
And did I tell you that you look like a moviestar. 🙂
Keep rocking girl!
Richa | Fancier’s World
Aw, thank you, Richa! You are far too kind! 🙂
Oh wow, this coat is beyond amazing!! You look so glam and gorgeous Lindsey! As a fellow polka dot lover, my eyes instantly bugged out when I saw this haha. Wonderful post too about growing confidence and seeing the beauty is what others wear. Everyone is unique with their own style and we should all celebrate that. Thank you for bringing it to light and discussing it!
Thank you so much, Amanda! You are too sweet! Haha – glad I’m not the only polka dot crazed person out there! 🙂 I’m so happy you enjoyed reading this post too. 🙂
This was one of my favorite posts by you! Not only am I drooling over this coat (OMFG) but I love the message. I feel like since I started blogging I’ve grown more sensitive to people IRL making remarks about what other people wear. Looking at different girls in different styles every day be happy in whatever they choose and seeing the whole blog community at least virtually cheerlead it is amazing, and anything less than that is just not really acceptable to me anymore. XO
Aw, thank you, Lauren! And I completely agree…the blog community has shown me just how awesome and amazing people can be! And now I expect everyone in the world to be just as awesome and accepting. 🙂
I think this outfit is amazing – love the black and white. Love the coat, it’s an exciting item.
Also, I must say I love this post and I love reading your reasoning and I can only say that I agree with you. I think it is so poisonous to do that, picking apart others and being so critical. Being open to what others are wearing as well as everything else, is what is key to live a life without feeling judged by others too.
Great post! Love it when you get serious.
Hope you are having a great weekend!
Aw, thank you, Mona! I’m also glad you enjoyed reading this post. 🙂 Being open to other’s differences is definitely the key to not feeling as though YOU are always being judged. I completely agree. 🙂 I hope you had a great weekend too! Much love!
This outfit is absolutely gorgeous. I love the pop of just white and black (and, of course, your lipstick.) The sheer coat gives such a fun layering effect to your dress, too. I’m always amazed by how much one thing can change an entire outfit. And my love affair with sheer black items is just starting…
I love your commentary on this post as well, I have discovered that people notice what I wear, but most people aren’t going to comment to me about it. And if they aren’t brave enough to comment to me about it, then I don’t need to worry about what they are thinking. But it is still and will always be a struggle for me. But where I am emotionally is a happy place for now, so I enjoy those moments while they last and focus on them when I’m in a more difficult place.
Hi Patrick! Oh gosh, thank you so much! I would have to say my love affair with sheer black items is starting too. 🙂
And thank you so much for taking the time to read this post. 🙂 I love your attitude! Don’t worry about the negative folks, especially if they aren’t brave enough to say anything anyways. But keep your chin up. 🙂 I know, easier said than done some days. It sounds like you are in a good spot now..which I am very happy to hear.
I hope you have a wonderful weekend, Patrick!
That is such a unique coat. Glad you have the confidence to wear such a statement piece.
Thank you so much, Jessica! 🙂
I love your attitude! YES, don’t point out the negative!! To be honest, I’m rather more ‘Don’t care’ about what I wear, although I’ve always had my own likes and dislikes in clothing I will wear, but I’m definitely more confident about it now!
Aw, thank you so much, Kezzie! I am so glad to hear you are more confident now too! 🙂
What a gorgeous coat! I think I would wear it for sure! And it looks especially great over that dress. Good choice! 🙂
Thank you so much, Laurie! 🙂
I’d like to say I’ve always been confident in my style, but I’m guilty of the same kind of behavior you’ve mentioned above. And I’ve usually done it to make myself feel better. Blogging and slowly defining my style have helped me change that a LOT! Now I’m happy with what I wear, and I can better appreciate other people’s style.
I’m glad you’ve gained more confidence in yourself! Over the last year or so, I’ve seen you looking more and more confident in your clothes, and you really can rock whatever you wear!
Aw, thank you so much, Devinne! That means so much to me to hear that! And I am so glad you have become happy with what you wear too! I can definitely tell in your photos as well! 🙂
WOW that coat is AMAZING! I’ve never seen a sheer coat but it is so pretty and I love how you paired it with that dress!
Thank you so much, Lee! 🙂